Self Worth, Self Esteem, Confidence and Courage – four terms that get used interchangeably.
Which of these do you really need to work on?
I know this could be considered spliting hairs but sometimes with clients its needed to get to the core of their issue.
Is it self worth?
Their self esteem?
The confidence they feel?
Or lacking in courage?
Self-worth is at the core of our very selves—our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours are intimately tied into how we view our worthiness and value as human beings. If you have a robust self worth, you will know that no one can affect your worth. Your success and failures do not define you, they are events that occur. As a human being on this planet, you have worth. You contribute to your community and are of use to the human species.
If you hold someone else in esteem, you value and trust them therefore self esteem is your own perception of your value and trust for yourself.
People with healthy self-esteem treat themselves with respect and look after their health, community, and environment. They are able to invest themselves completely in projects and people. Of course they suffer hurt and disappointment, but their setbacks neither damage nor diminish them as they respect the learning that comes from these set backs.
From Dr Neel Burton, confidence comes from the Latin fidere, “to trust”. To be self-confident is to trust that you have the ability to do something. Confidence is a feedback process, by overcoming certain obstacles or working to improve a skill, you will succeed, result in feeling confident. So you are more willing to do it again due to the positive feedback you recieved. A self-confident person is ready to rise to new challenges, seize opportunities, deal with difficult situations, and take responsibility if and when things go awry.
In the absence of confidence, courage takes over. Confidence operates in the realm of the known, courage in that of the unknown and the uncertain. Courage is a more noble attribute than confidence because it requires greater strength to do something new, unfamiliar or fearsome. Being a courageous person is one with limitless capabilities and possibilities.
Through coaching and hypnosis, we can work on moving you through your area of lack.